If You Don’t Know Me By Now

If you don’t know me by now, then you will never ever know me…. I know that you were thinking it when you read the title. Its funny how an old song by Harold Melvin and The Blue Notes can say so little and say so much. I mean if you don’t know someone after a long time of being around that person you are obviously in denial. You should be able to look at the way people have acted in the past or things they’ve done to let you see what type of person they are, the police do it in investigations to establish a history of behavior. I know people change sometimes but there should be evidence of that too. They say those who don’t know the past are destined to repeat it.

I find the way people look at life very weird. People take everything they’ve learned through their time of existence and in an instance throw it all to the wind for love and companionship and I too am guilty. Love and life isn’t about trust because you never know the thoughts of a person to fully trust them. Life and love is about knowing what people are capable of good or bad. Lets think about people you’ve known for years like your mom. I know that when i was a child if i acted up i could expect a whipping but i knew my mom would never drive me off a bridge, that’s because i know her. Now lets think about a guy you just started dating a month ago, what do you know without a doubt about him? Nothing. I don’t fool myself into thinking that just because you’ve known a person for years their trustworthy though but i do believe that lets you know what type of person they are. There’s an old saying that’s says if you’ll steal, you’ll kill. I use to think that’s the dumbest thing i ever heard but actually it gives you insight on a person’s character. Think of it this way sin is sin, and if a person can get enough courage to take something that doesn’t belong to them and not feel guilty then that leaves the door open for anything. It’s about morals and you either got them or you don’t.

I know we all make mistakes and bad decisions at times but it’s all in how you handle it. If you step on someone’s foot do you apologize or say nothing? If you hurt someone’s feelings do you care or not? Do you continually do things you know are wrong and never feel guilty or try to change or correct yourself? I always tell people i know what i know and nobody can tell me different. I am not being stubborn but you have to stand for something or you will fall for anything. Beware of wolves in sheep clothing’s, just because it walks like duck and quacks like a duck don’t make it a duck nowadays. The Bibles says “For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit”. So basically it can walk like a duck, quack like a duck but if it isn’t birthing duck babies it’s not a duck. Things have to add up and it you find that they don’t you must reevaluate. Two and two doesn’t equal five. I promise you all that glitters isn’t gold and we must not let ourselves be fooled. I’m not going to ask people to trust me because the Bible says put your trust in no man, but if think you know me you should know what I’m capable of.

Most importantly we have to know ourselves. So many people let themselves be defined by what others think of them, especially women. Women often depend on the love or acceptance of a man to give them worth. We constantly search for the approval of people who don’t deserve us, men included. Men and women come and go, so you have to validate yourself. People will be around when you are up but you can only depend on yourself and God when you are down. This is hard fact to accept when you are going through things in your life but its nothing to feel defeated over. It is empowering to find strength within us to move forward and it is an accomplishment that no one can take away from you. Even if people never know who you are keep making sure God does.

Psalm 139:1-4

1 O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.