Examine Yourself


Lamentations 3:40

say’s 40 Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the Lord.


You need some me time. There comes a time in life when you have to shut yourself off to the world and get to know you. Often times we enter into relationships without truly knowing who we are as an individual. It is impossible to be a good partner if you do not know what you bring to the table.


If you do not know who you are you end up not being enough for someone and being too much at the same time. People are often devalued in relationships when they do not know their worth. I know that we would like to believe that the people who claim to love us will always treat us with respect but the trust is they won’t if you don’t demand it.  It is human nature to look out for self first. Even though the bible tells us to love one another as God has loved us the truth is everyone isn’t a follower of God’s word even if they claim to be. We have to be defensive in relationships just like in driving. You have to look out for the other man because the other man may not be looking out for you.


It is very easy to get lost in another person when you are desperate to be loved. That’s why it is important to learn to love you first because you can’t be desperate for something you already have. When you don’t like or love yourself you end up praising people you are in a relationship with for just being in your presence when they aren’t really doing much else. It’s kind of like praising people for something that they should be doing anyway because you don’t how you should be treated.


Think about like this if you buy a TV you expect it to come with a remote so if if doesn’t you aren’t happy. But if the TV does come with a remote you have no feelings about it because it was suppose to be there. You should not be giving people extra points for doing whats expected. If you buy a fryer its supposed to fry and if it doesn’t you return it, but you don’t get overjoyed when you bring it home and it works.


You have to ask people in your life what are you here for? Then you have to decide whether those people are helping or hurting what you are trying to do or who you are trying to be. You have to know who you are and what you want out of life. You can’t compromise your morals, your character or your dreams or you will end up compromising who you are as a person. God made you the way he made you for a reason and he made someone to fit you. So stop trying to force people who don’t fit into life by changing who you are. Now i’m not talking about your bad habits or flaws i’m talking about whats good about you. if you have to change whats good about you to be with someone they aren’t the one for you.


Galatians 6:4

say’s But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.


But what if you aren’t the victim? What if you are the victimizer? That is even more reason to take time away from others and get to know you. If you are hard to get along with it maybe its not everyone else, maybe its you. Maybe your relationship isn’t what it could be because you aren’t what you should be. More times than often we ask others to be more than what we are ourselves. Are you expecting more out people than you are willing to give? Are you asking for more than you deserve?


Everyone thinks that they deserve love when they haven’t done anything to get it. Sometimes you have to ask yourself honestly why should anyone like or love me? What is so great about me? Everyone has some good and bad qualities if they are truthfully with themselves. You have to praise yourself for what you know is good about you and work on what’s bad. You should never let another time let you what you are worth.


1 Corinthians 11:28

say’s 28 But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup.


Life is about being a better person than you were yesterday. It’s not about competing with other people, trying to convince people that you are worthy of their love or intimidating people into loving you. You have to get yourself together before you can be with someone else. People can’t complete other people they can only compliment one another. If I am a full glass of water and my partner is only half full, the more I pour into him the less I am. But the real problem is full people are never attracted to half full people. You attract what you are therefore broken people attract other broken people. When you are only half full and you try to fill your half full partner that leaves you empty. To many of us are running on empty trying to be filled by people when God is the only one that can fill you.


Matthew 5:6

say’s blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.


I know that as people we feel the need for companionship but its okay to be alone sometimes I even recommend it. Because if you don’t know yourself you will always allow other people to make you into what they want you to be.



 © 2015 Aquila Taite

Jeremiah 31:19

19 Surely after that I was turned, I repented; and after that I was instructed, I smote upon my thigh: I was ashamed, yea, even confounded, because I did bear the reproach of my youth.